All of us have very different ways of experiencing and expressing our gender identity. What you see here is an ongoing conversation about gender.

GENDER FLUID

GENDER
QUESTIONING

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GENDER FLUID

My gender identity is fluid. It’s not a fixed point on the gender spectrum because it shifts with time. What people talk about when they use the words masculinity and femininity – I relate to those things to different degrees at different times. Sometimes it’s more of one and sometimes more of the other, and it could also be beyond the binary.

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    GENDER
    QUESTIONING

    I’m in the process of questioning and thinking about my gender. For me this is a period of understanding and expressing what my gender identity is. It’s about exploring where I stand on the gender spectrum, if at all. This can be both stressful and joyful, and I can take as much time as I need to feel clarity. 

      GENDER
      NON-CONFORMING

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      GENDER
      NON-CONFORMING

      Society is always telling us what it means to be of a certain gender. A woman should be nurturing and emotional or a man must be independent and competitive (imposing binary ways of being on us!) There are all these rules about how certain genders are expected to look and be. I don’t live by these expectations of gender presentation or gender expression.

        GENDER
        QUEER

        GENDER
        VARIANT

        NON
        BINARY

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        GENDER
        QUEER

        I don’t believe in the gender binary. Our traditional understanding of woman-man falls short for me. I don’t follow the rules or norms of what society says it means to be a particular gender. 

        This word began to be used as a way for people to question the gender binary. Sometimes people use it to challenge gender stereotypes. It can be used to refer to several gender identities such as agender, non-binary, bigender, gender fluid etc

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          GENDER
          VARIANT

          I don’t express my gender in the way society traditionally expects me to. I don’t live by the existing ideas formulated by society (a woman should be kind and soft spoken or a man must be loud and assertive) of gender presentation or gender expression – of how certain genders are expected to look and be by our society.

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            NON
            BINARY

            I don’t identify solely as a woman or a man. The gender binary feels limiting to me. Who I am is explained better outside of the usual, slightly narrow, understanding of woman-man. 

              TRANS/ TRANS PERSON/ TRANSGENDER PERSON

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              TRANS/ TRANS PERSON/ TRANSGENDER PERSON

              My personal and intuitive sense of who I am, my gender identity and gender expression, is different from what society expects me from me based on how it understands gender. It is not limited to or by the gender binary

              Trans is sometimes used as a short-hand for transperson or transgender person. It is an umbrella term that reflects the exploration of gender on a person’s own terms instead of how they are seen by others or taught to be by society.

                AGENDER

                TRANS WOMAN/
                TRANSGENDER WOMAN

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                AGENDER

                I don’t identify or feel comfortable with any particular gender label. In fact, I don’t like to think about my identity with respect to gender. This is not so much because I don’t care about gender, but more because I feel strongly about being genderless or without gender.

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                  TRANS WOMAN/
                  TRANSGENDER WOMAN

                  My sense of who I am is that I am a woman. However my gender expression, the way that I explore and understand womanhood is different from what is expected of me by society. 

                  Transwoman is sometimes used as a short-hand for transgender woman.

                    TRANS MAN/
                    TRANSGENDER MAN

                    BIGENDER

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                    TRANS MAN/
                    TRANSGENDER MAN

                    My sense of who I am is that I am a man. However my gender expression, the way that I explore and understand manliness is different from what is expected of me by society.  

                    Transman is sometimes used as a short-hand for transgender man.

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                      BIGENDER

                      My gender identity is a mix of more than one identity. I find that a combination of two identities best explains who I am, and that in no way indicates indecisiveness on my part. 

                      When someone’s gender identity is a mixture of more than two identities, they may even call themselves polygender.

                        PANGENDER

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                        PANGENDER

                        I feel comfortable with all gender identities or labels. I can relate to identities across the gender spectrum and even those beyond or outside it. This could be at the same time, or I could fluctuate or move between different gender identities.

                          HIJRA

                          THIRUNAMBI

                          KOTHI

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                          HIJRA

                          I am a hijra or a transgender person. In my being, outlook and expression I am a woman. I was initiated into the hijra community by my godmother. We live as a community of transwomen. This is our family, this is our world. There are diverse communities like Jogappas, Aravanis, Pavaiyya etc. in India who share similar customs and rituals like hijras.

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                            THIRUNAMBI

                            I identify as thirunambi, which is a widely-accepted term among the Tamil trans-men community in India. Thirunangai is the word some trans-thamizhachi (Tamil trans-women) use. Thirunar is the word used by the trans community of the region to refer to themselves as a collective.

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                              KOTHI

                              We are kothis. We are often labelled as effeminate men or gay boys. But our social, cultural and sexual expression is like women. We live within the mainstream society, with our birth families, friends and partner(s). But we embrace our true selves as women with our fellow kothis.

                                TRANS FEMININE

                                TRANS MASCULINE

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                                TRANS FEMININE

                                I strongly identify with femininity. I express myself in ways that could be considered in society as feminine. However, my interpretation of femininity is not always in line with society’s idea of the ideal woman. 

                                Here’s what a transfeminine experience could look like>>

                                Transfeminine is an umbrella term and can be used to describe various identities such as non binary folx and gender fluid people who identify with femininity or present in a feminine way.

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                                  TRANS MASCULINE

                                  I strongly identify with masculinity. I express myself in ways that could be considered in society as masculine. However, my interpretation of masculinity is not always in line with society’s view of the ideal man. 

                                  Here’s what a transmasculine experience could look like >>

                                  Transmasculine is an umbrella term and can be used to describe various identities such as non binary folx and gender fluid people who identify with or present in a masculine way.

                                    ANDROGYNE / ANDROGYNOUS

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                                    ANDROGYNE / ANDROGYNOUS

                                    My gender expression can have both masculine and feminine elements and can also have neither.

                                      Demi-girl

                                      Demi-boy

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                                      Demi-girl

                                      I am a demigirl. I don’t fully associate with being a girl, although I was raised as one. But this is also the reason why I partially identify with girlhood. It’s not something that I can articulate in greater detail, but when I learnt about demi-genders and how a partial connection with any gender(s) can be defined this way, this is what came naturally to me. 

                                      Demi gender is an umbrella term within the non-binary, and consists of identities like demiboy, demi-bigender and so on. There are also demifluid persons, who have multiple genders, some static, while others are fluid; and demiflux persons, who have multiple genders, with some that are static, while others fluctuate in intensity.

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                                        Demi-boy

                                        I am a demiboy. I don’t fully associate with being a boy, although in school I wanted to be one. This may be why I partially identify with boyhood, but it’s not something that I can articulate in greater detail. When I learnt about demi-genders and how a partial connection with any gender(s) can be defined this way, this is what came naturally to me. 

                                        Demi gender is an umbrella term within the non-binary, and consists of identities like demiboy, demi-bigender and so on. There are also demifluid persons, who have multiple genders, some static, while others are fluid; and demiflux persons, who have multiple genders, with some that are static, while others fluctuate in intensity.

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